Social media platforms like TikTok spin more and more examples of kinks that have been relatively underground until revelations hit avid viewers.
Fetishes like age play, shibari and other forms of bondage have public air time in general audiences. People confess realizing they are attracted to hands or feet in average conversation.
Outside of social media, the pornography industry has long been a bastion of misogyny popularizing degradation, sexual assault, and other forms of violence against women.
The specific kink for this discussion is "breeding" or "breeding kink." A breeding kink is generally defined as being aroused by the act of ejaculating inside of women with the intentional risk of pregnancy. For women, it is being aroused by the risk of becoming pregnant.
The state of pregnancy is not the fetish here, that is a different brand of kink entirely. This kink does not fetishize the labor or birth, it also does not correlate to lactation fetishes. Instead, a breeding kink is more focused on the pleasure of risking pregnancy. This kink might be closely related to feeling aroused by being submissive in the case of the woman and feeling dominant for the male.
Whether or not a pregnancy is possible is, ironically, not always the arousal factor. A breeding kink can also be fulfilled in sexual interactions using contraceptives, in these cases the fetish centers more around role playing the breeding portion but limiting STD risk. In other cases, without contraception, the breeding kink can be augmented by the added risk of getting an STD.
On Dominance and Religious Misogyny
Although it is well established in non-binary, queer, and lesbian communities that these kinks exist for those who are biologically unable to be impregnated or impregnate their partner, this kink exists for women who can and may become pregnant as well.
Male partners in this framework are marking territory, claiming dominance, or staking ownership over their female or partners.
Male-centered dominance, specifically in heteronormative interactions, is an agent of the patriarchy. We also bring those constructs into the bedroom.
Some factors of the breeding kink may be unintentionally biblical. Christianity endows men with ownership and dominance over women, while it divorces women from their bodily autonomy, insists on submission, reinforces pregnancy as a form of punishment and misery, all while driving faithfulness to a single man.
Timothy 2:11-14 declares that “a woman must learn in quietness and full submissiveness... do not permit a woman to teach or to exercise authority over a man; she is to remain quiet.”
“It is not far-fetched to wonder if a breeding kink could be ingrained but unrealized religious trauma and indoctrination.”
As far as pregnancy, birth and bodily autonomy goes, in Genesis 3:16, God tells Eve “I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”
That isn’t even in the fine print. Genesis 9:1 advises Noah and his sons to “be fruitful and multiply and fill the Earth...”. Genesis 1:28 discusses the creation of men and women wherein God offers the same advice but adds “fill the Earth and subdue it” to the list of things “man” must do.
If you believe that society, especially in countries like the United States, builds social constructs around biblical tropes, it is not far-fetched to wonder if a breeding kink could be ingrained but unrealized religious trauma and indoctrination.
Dominating female partners by way of attaching them to pregnancy and therefore a child would, in this sense, be a way of further subjecting women to one of the world’s favorite forms of control - removing bodily autonomy. Pregnancy is, in a way, sacrificing your body to further the population and create more people to support male-centered initiatives. For many women, pregnancy and the resulting child is another way patriarchal control can be applied through financial instability, anti-choice laws, and the withdrawal of male partners who do not support their offspring.
Female slaves in the United States, and globally, were historically subjected to forced breeding. The desire for pregnancy was not an option for these women. Masters coerced by threat of position or outright assaulted, female slaves. Traditionally the female slave experience existed “in the periphery.” However, revisionist historians have traced the practice and suggested that this was a way to manufacture more slaves in order to avoid having to pay for them at auction and ensured continuity of production.
Female slaves at auction were raped, sexually assaulted and exposed in order to make them more attractive to buyers as fertile, attractive and young. The ability to reproduce, a unique trait of women, was a selling point. Breeding, in this case, brought financial stability for plantations whose production required slavery to function. The womb was a commodity.
“The risk in anti-choice areas is that this kink becomes a liability on your quality of life and, potentially, your health.”
Pregnancy and Breeding As Imperative
Society scales the value of women off of a few well-known constructs, not the least of which is her modesty and how she can be utilized as a reproductive tool while purposefully separating her from her sexual power. Women’s bodies are policed by legislature and moral imperatives. But let’s discuss the biological imperative argument.
A favorite stance that excuses rape is the argument for biological imperatives. There is a book about it, but unless you want to use it as fodder to set an institution on fire I don’t recommend it for casual reading. Craig Palmer and Robert Thornhill authored “A Natural History of Rape: Biological Bases of Sexual Coercion” seemingly in order to justify rape as boys being boys. The natural conclusion for the troglodytes who read it was that men rape women in order to reproduce and move through sexual selection in order to further their genes, separating women from the pleasure of sex and qualifying their experience as solely for reproduction.
However, if you take this argument at face value and ignore the implications, breeding is simply what men must do. The female partners in a breeding scenario are just vessels for childbearing and continuing their somehow unique and special genetic material. For some men the real thrill of breeding a woman lies in the continuity of your contribution to the species and sexually selecting your partner for their desirable traits, rather than their personhood and intimate connection to you.
Female partners in heteronormative sexual encounters might be revictimizing themselves unintentionally. Women live in a world built against them, on the whole, and function inside of systems built to uphold male interest and power.
Women are reared to be attractive to men, in order to survive at times, required to satisfy the needs of men. In breeding kink, the contention is that you desire pregnancy or to be utilized as a tool for reproduction because society has taught you to want that. Women are permitted to be sexual in order to satisfy the men and any real departure from that is labeled as an outlier, slutty, queer, or marginalized.
A potential subconscious cause for breeding kink in women is the need for the protection of ownership. You might not be budgeting in your head during sex, if you are you might want to just get dressed and leave. However, the outcome of children is often having an attachment to a male which can give you some agency or stability in a society that is otherwise cruel to women.
Society works directly against the needs of women and children, if you desire to be pregnant and have children and that goes further into a kink, you might be making subconscious calculations for survival.
In cultures and countries where women’s reproductive rights are stifled or outright illegal, there is no choice in the outcome of a pregnancy. Reasoning past the face value of these laws can direct you to the idea that in order to support capitalist (patriarchal) endeavors, we have to replenish our population. There must always be a working class.
Forcing women, disproportionately women of color and impoverished women, to continue with unwanted pregnancies ensures the working class will continue to exist.
A breeding kink with this ingrained sense of reproduction could stem from a place of control for women who are forced to continue with pregnancies. The risk in anti-choice areas is that this kink becomes a liability on your quality of life and, potentially, your health. Your kink can also land you in jail or force you to pay fines for termination of the pregnancy should you want an abortion afterward. There are very real risks associated with a breeding kink where women have been separated from bodily autonomy by law.
If you are thinking “my kink is not that serious” or “it’s my body to do with as I please” consider the possibility that your kink is a reflection of your place in a society built by men. Search your desires and understand them. Your sexual power, your choice and your bodily autonomy are a revolution. Be aware of the root of your kinks and soul search as you navigate your sexual relationships on your terms.